Can the non-norms be in the ordinary world?

There are some people that like to do things that is only to the satisfactory of the public, but is it necessarily important when the things we do must really have other people's consent of even their approval.

I've come across a person, who is going to "consummate" or in any other words, giving up his total freedom and to just get himself locked to a room and throw away the key.

If you understand the metaphor above, I guess you know what I mean. To be accepted totally by the public in the world is so important in some different "classes" of people that I wonder, who set up this rule and why must it be a so called "GOLDEN RULE". Can it not be just an extraordinary from the group of norms?

To those who still don't know what I mean on the above, here's the reason to the above. A person finding a way out, a breather who goes into the so called "marriage", totally lies to the other (for saving his own butt), trying to tell himself, that he is, one of the norms. But knowingly, deep down inside this person, he has the quality to become a norm (by pretending), in the event trying so hard and just making it a normal life.

Though I may not agree to the actions the person has done, but I sort of pity this sort of a person for doing this to just have the approval of many, especially in the eyes of the public.

How can this be and how long does it take? When should the ordinary be able to accept the extraordinary?