Tuesday, May 29, 2007

Does distance work?

The internet, the IT wonder, the barrier breaker. The technology that actually allows us to communicate with others on the other side of the world, from the humble beginning of email (pure text), to embedded pictures with email, through online messaging, though video chat, this has broken the boundaries of communication, virtually anyone with a PC and a broadband line, you can speak with anyone, see them with your webcam.

Well, some have developed romance on the cyber world; love at cam’s first sight and from there proposes their love. But there is one problem; they are thousands of miles apart separated by the sea, how far this love will grow apart from seeing each other in the net. Does this go further? We still need to touch the person, feel them to connect with them.

For some, maybe they will drop by during their holidays, to meet up and see if it is really worth going on. Now, if it does, what’s next? Go for a long distance relationship? How will this work? How long can it sustain? How long can we stand not seeing physically each other in the beginning of the relationship?

I don’t deny the fact that there are some who did some sacrifices, giving up their job and joining the other. But it doesn’t work for some when there are some who bare some responsibilities over their shoulder. Who wouldn’t just drop everything and go off to seek their own happiness?

When this happens, we have these running through our minds, “Why do you have to be so far away?” or “How I wish I could be there with you?” with a small follow up to that query “But I have something to take care of here.”

Despite of all the things that people say, “If there is a will, there is a way”, but sometimes, even the strongest will can’t even break the responsibilities that some of us shoulder.

It sounds downright negative, but yes, this is some of the things that does happen to some people, that they just have to let go and search for someone nearer, “Can’t go for the best you’ve found, find another then.”

Saturday, May 26, 2007

When things comes to an end…

Couples that have been together for so long leads to two results, one to be continuously happy, and the other, living their lives separately, doing their own things, and in the end, who knows, divorcing each other after a long marriage. Though some call to talk it over about what seems to be the problem, and to see whether it can be solved, but then, it doesn’t work that way for some couples. Once a glass is broken, no matter how much glue you try to apply to stick it back together, it still ends up with cracks on the mirror.

It might be that two people that decide to go their own way, but there are some, between the two, that one of the party that wants out, and the other begging to give another try. For those who wants out, maybe, just maybe, a thought of relief and freedom, with a little spec of heartache. But to this people, they will just think “Time to start a new chapter!”

People who hurt most are those who are the ones trying to save the relationship, whereas the other just couldn’t wait to be out of the relationship. We need to look at this people and say, “Don’t worry, there are still others out there, though it might not be the same, but at least the others might be better than the one you have right now.”

Accept the fact that it is the end of the chapter for the one you loved, don’t blame yourself, as everyone in the world, not even your partner is perfect. Just be on the look out for someone better, perhaps it will bring you up to another level of higher satisfaction. Agree?