Friday, August 10, 2007

Choices at the least most expected times

Why does it always happen when you are looking for something, you won’t be able to find it? But when you don’t look for it, it just appears right in front of you. Things happen when we least expect it to be.

Looking in the aspect of a relationship, when we are desperately trying to find someone to fill in the empty gap, we just can’t really seem to find any that really fits. In the end, we get nothing but frustration.

Through this kind of ordeal, some might just say, “Fine, since I can’t find one, might as well live a single life.” With this kind of thinking, we would try to get use of doing things alone and feel very happy with what we are right now and find that being single is not that bad at all.

As we go along life, the unexpected happens, someone that fits you pops up in front of you and seep into your life. The question would be; would you want to go on to your new found single life? Or would you accept this new person in your life and start the relationship?

Perhaps you wouldn’t mind changing back to the old life of being in a relationship, but to some, they might feel very tired to go over the cycle after finding out the life of being single.

So, do we say, “Come what may, if it comes, I’ll change again”, or “No, I’m tired of changing, leave me alone, I am fine with my new lifestyle”?

Some might have firm decisions to know what they are doing, but some are confused when being faced with this sort of situation. Even the firmest person will be in a dilemma when they reach this particular crossroad.

To those who really know what they want, then be what you are. To those who really don’t know what you should do, don’t worry, because you are not the only one that faces this particular problem. To really find the answer at the crossroad is to ask yourself “What do you really want?”

If your heart and mind tells you the decision, do not regret when you’ve chosen the road as once you go on, there is no turning back, but to wait for another crossroad to come and choose again.

Wednesday, August 08, 2007

Another hop...

It is time again that I venture forth to another green pasture. This has been my third jump since April. Though it sounds like a person who doesn't seems to keep his butt quietly at the same place, or a person who just like to change jobs out of the fun. But is seems not to be the case as it seems.

My first reason for changing the job was for a change of environment and to look for better income after stuck in the same organization for 14 years. Though it seems like a good place to work with the people, the benefits that I am getting from the company seems to grow lesser and lesser. So I jumped.

The second job I landed, hoping things are for the best, turned out to be the other. Total hierarchical, as if run under the 3rd Reich. Red tapes were a lot. Non dynamic people, old prunes and boot licking was all I see. Attitude is to either "follow the leader" or "wait and see" attitude. Though some of the benefits are better from my last job, but the environment made me want to just get out of it. Just as I was venting my frustrations all over, some had sore ears listening to my bantering, an unexpected call and another company asked me if I was interested to go for an interview. I went and I jumped again for greener pastures.

The third job was somewhat similar to my first job that I left, dynamic (to certain extent) , fast (to certain extent too); but one thing that made me wonder such a company has people, mostly of who are in the categories of:

Back Stabbers - These people are very dangerous, smiles nicely at you, and then reports to the bosses of the least wrong doing you've done, condemning you. Hello? Back stabbers? Nobody is born perfect you know? If you are ever so perfect, you'd be GOD!

Tai Chi Masters - These people who only of the top management. Says one thing at a particular time, forgets, but when it was the day being questioned of the reason why was the things approved, they say its not their fault and blame in on others. Another way of Tai Chi, is to push the responsibilities to others to take it. And when there is success, they will quickly take the credit for things that they have not done.

Slackers - When the bosses are not around, they take their pride in doing things SLOW and STEADY, when I mean slow, it is really really SLOW! Just when the bosses are back, you can't just imagine the speed they work! Faster than a speeding bullet. If not, they'd stack up things on their table, and when bosses passes by, hoping that the bosses sees them as productive worker. Mind you, that's productive thinker of a slacker.

I wonder if these people has really nothing else better to do but to think of ways to avoid and instigate on others. Better put the brain to something of a better use. But this time, though I've been trying to avoid as many of these type of people and coping with the job, lady luck just sat on my shoulder. Another call came, and another offer was made to me. Thinking of the benefits and the income that surpasses more than what I am currently working on, I decided to hop once more.

Coming this September, I will be going to another company with caution and to be a little self conservative as I would think that after so many jumps, I found that though there are some patches of the pasture is green, but there are some that is totally bad patches. Hence, I walk bravely to another pasture, only to hope to step on the greens and carefully avoid the bad ones.