Tuesday, October 31, 2006

Dark Clouds...

A sunny day
Clouded by uncertainty
Hearts that feel light
Suddenly turns heavy

Surroundings never show
An invisible force lingers slow
People that suddenly clouded
Suddenly feels bad, moody and sad

Worrying of why
Worrying of how
Worrying of where
Worrying of something to be aware

Clouds of invisibility
Clouds that moves slow
Clouds that does not give warning
Clouds that are are slowly scaring

Damper the spirits
To whom it might be affected
Nowhere to run
Nowhere to hide

Pray oh pray
Don't let this heart wander away
Let this dark clouds be away
Or fear will come and will be here to stay

Perfect to whose eyes?

Sometimes we ask, what is really considered perfect? Should there be always be a prince charming for a beautiful princess; or prince charming for a prince charming? LOL

When we look at a couple, if it does not look like it should be a perfect pair (in one’s perception), a Brad Pitt look with a Tony Shalhoub or a Tom Cruise with Kathy Bates look, you’d say “I don’t think they are a perfect match”, “Something’s wrong with this picture that I can’t put my finger on.” But who are we to say that a perfect couple is “not-so” perfect”?

To some people, the quote, “Beauty is in the eye of the Beholder” sums it up to anybody’s question on his “not-so” perfect match. The standards that we put for ourselves are different from others, where some might agree with your comment, while others tend to disagree.

Try to take the analogy of what is considered a perfect home to a perfect match. Some people would like their home to be a Zen design, practically simple and less complicated furniture or antiques while others would look for a Balinese mix of Tropical design.

It all comes to a person’s taste. So when it comes to the question of what type of guys/gals you are looking for, and one states, “I like him/her to be manly/slender built, intelligent and caring”, but in the end finds a less than average guy/gal with less of what is stated, you’d be questioned “That’s what you call your perfect candidate?”

It really depends on what is the level of acceptance of what each person’s standards are. Be very aware or what we say sometimes to other people (even unintentionally), the situation might just fall on us. When faced with the statement “Hey, he’s/she's not quite your match”, we’d be answering “Well, in my eyes, he’s/she's perfect in every way.”

Tuesday, October 17, 2006

To find a job...

Do we really know what we know or it'’s just good enough for you to pass up as a knowledgeable person?

I bring this particular thought up is because when I got the boot from my company, and looking through the ads for jobs, I felt like, "I know some of this, but then again, I am not sure whether I fit for the job". Should we say upfront to the interviewer, "I know some of this, but am willing to learn the rest if given the chance". Will the interviewer think, "Hmm...Nah, not what we are looking for".

OR

Should we say "I know all these, and I am experienced", but later to find that you are not, you'll get the boot from this new company.

Should we play safe by being honest or should we lie to risk our name getting tarnished in the corporate world?

But where do we learn to be the all knowledgeable? It'’s from a company that gives a chance for you to grow. But how many will allow you to do so?

The quote "“Jack of all trades, Master of None"” comes in play, as how proficient we are in the company, but you master none of it, the chances of getting a job is kind of slim. But then again, if you master only one and the job out there needs you to be more than just one particular skill? Then the "Chicken and Egg" situation comes in play. Strange enough, this is how the corporate world is like.

Looking for a job is easy if expectations are lesser, but when there is a load on your shoulders, it'’s a different ball game all together. We want so much to find a job that'’s going to pay well.

You tend to try to find a good job for yourself; the employer tries to find a good employee. Till that chance comes, all we can do is keep searching till one comes by.

Monday, October 16, 2006

Lock and throw away the key?!.. (Part II, the additional to Memories)

When you think about the past, is it normal that we feel happy/bad? Does that mean we are not getting over the past?

Can we leave it as in one of the locked drawers? Somehow if you agree with me, the key finds its way back to the lock and unlocks it. When it does, mix emotions flooding out of the drawer. When this happens, people beside you feel it.

“I am fine”, “No, nothing is wrong”, “Don’t worry”, “I am still with you aren’t I”, “I’m OK”. These are the words we normally hear. Be weary as some feel insecure (to those who are coupled), when they sense you have the sudden change of mood/expression.

It is hard to find any solution to an insecure heart as the other finds it hard to believe that their presence is never enough or appreciated compared to the one that has affected you in the past.

Assurance and constant assurance is all we have to give to the other party. But when it is enough? It is never enough to make that sort of assurance.

Learn to put up a face when this happens as this will surely be the best way to avoid any unwanted scenes. So, to lock and throw away the key, its just a thing you can do for a certain period of time as it will, a guarantee that will creep back into your life.

Tuesday, October 03, 2006

Memories

When you look at the sky, sometimes it’s clear, sunny and warm, sometimes it’s cloudy, gloomy and cold. When we see the changes in the sky, it reflects a little on what we are feeling at times. We have the best of time; we have the worst of time. We enjoy some of the times that makes you remember that special day, but it will also make you remember the worst day in your life.

Memories is all we have when we see this in the sky, sometimes you tell yourself, don’t think of the past, but this sort of memory does not lay dormant, it sometimes creep back, and bang, hits you in your head. You might laugh, smile, smirk, weep, etc. Some crave that they wish they were back to the good old days; some just couldn’t wait to say “Good riddance”; some wish they could mend the things that they did wrong.

But truly, it’s just something that we have to just look at it, and walk away. Through memories we learn, learn what should not be repeated, learn that there are more things than life itself than oneself, and the list goes on to what we could learn from it.

Each experience passed becomes a memory. Each memory that is in the mind becomes a reminder. The reminder is to let us know what we should and should not do as we move along our lives.

To erase any memory is hard, it’s all we have, can’t go back to how it happen, or to avoid it from happening, it is just but just a memory.