Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Love thy Friend or Love thy Loved One?

A: Hey, I met this person, charming. I think I might be going steady with him.
B: Oh, who is he?
A: Well, met him from the club, he’s tall, in his 30s, tanned.
B: Hmm, interesting. What does he do?
A: Oh, he works in the Bank; he’s a manager for the Customer Service Department.
B: By any chance his name is Joe? He happens to stay around PJ?
A: Yeah, that’s him. Wait a minute, how did you know him.
B: Ermm… well… I sort of met him 2 months ago. We had some occasional “fun”.
A: But he says that he is doesn’t delve in this sort of activity.
B: Apparently you’re wrong.

Based on this scenario, the thought of A finding the ONE love, smashed by B’s revelation on how this person Joe turn out to be.

So the question is if you were to be A …

1. Do you listen with an open heart and just smile, and thinking that, whatever Joe has done in the past has nothing got to do with me.

OR

2. Do you confront and question Joe of his ‘extra-curricular’ activity? And if so, you would dump Joe.

OR

3. Forget and not even want to let Joe know that you knew his past and never to call him again.

So, do we thank B for letting you know this news, or do we hate B for spoiling your dreams and thinking that maybe B has an ulterior motive? Above all, do we believe our friend or let love blinds you that you just want to have that person in your life and forget whatever that surrounds you. Your friends and family don’t matter, only this person you love. I guess most people who were in the relationship would understand what I mean, love is the utmost importance than anything else, even your career.

Instead of thanking the person who gave you the low down on what has happen, you hated the person so much, telling the person off and saying, “Why are you destroying something that I have?” We never let reality come in play; cause living in a love fantasy is so much better than have reality slap at your face.

Let’s face it; true friends are always there, friends are yet more important than just having the love of your life. The love of you life is just another BONUS to your life. If you can’t get this BONUS, you still need to move on.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

what cross ur mind when you write this blog...my sex machine fren.

Chris said...

hmmm...who is this? could you identify yourself oh anonymous one?

Anonymous said...

Chris,

You need to do some serious soul searching. The underlying issue that is prevalent in all your sentences is 'betrayel'. You have obviously had some bad relationships in the past but this negative sentiments would only replicate in itself for years to come, if you do not consult immediate psychiatric help. Based on many observations I've conducted on my patients to date, I see some similarities. I would suggest you to seek medication for depression. If my take is right, you are suffering from bipolar dissorder. Its an accute depression, not so common amongst Malaysian Chinese. Remember at all times life is short, so make sweet.

You are who you think you are...

Dr. Z

Chris said...

Dear Dr. Z,

Thanks for your concern, but do read my postings on "Walking on a bumpy road" posted Oct 3rd 2007, for the reasons you think that I might have based on your take.

Chris