Is it really true when people practice open relationship, the relationship will last compared to a monogamous relationship? What is the definition of open to some people? Some considered open to the extent of calling a 3rd person to join for occasional fun, while some define it as the couple go their own way to find their fun but just don’t let the other party find out.
How true or sure that you can keep you partner’s heart at bay? Will you have the fear that they will leave you if they find someone that maybe performs better than you? We can see this as lust, not love. It is because that when we find fun, and the fun turns out to be the best thing you’ve ever had and hope that you can have more, lust takes over and not love. So where does love come in?
Would this dampen a relationship that someone has? Could you loose your partner over lust? The answer to this, it is a 50/50 chance. As we go on further to define a relationship, we tend to say that love and lust works together. Without lust, but only love, when will it last? So when open relationship comes in play, are we prepared to face the day that we might loose a partner?
I am not saying people out there who practices open relationship will not last long, but there is a caution to this matter.
What if one suggest to have an open relationship, where the other tries to accommodate feels suffocated or stressed for the matter that “negative thoughts” might be playing in the mind. The aspect of one practices while the other does not, how far can one give in to the other partner’s wishes to go ahead?
If both agree to the fact are open, I guess this couple could last longer. But is there a 100% truth to this matter that open relationships can make the couple go on further.
More often than not, the only people who might get hurt are the ones being asked to have fun, knowing or not knowing that sparks might trigger and fall for a person who is already partnered.
The ultimate question that brings to the attention of couples that are practicing open relationship, it is necessary for you to have this and when is it enough?
Take the analogy of a person who has a salary of 1000. He says, “If I can get another 500, it should be enough”, but when the target is reached, another thought comes into the mind, “Maybe if I get 2000, it would be enough”. The fact is, it’s never enough. As human, the needs of a person changes so fast. It might satisfy but a short period of time, when the person gets bored with it, they would look for something new.
Can we control our needs? Will the person in front of you be good enough? Will this faithfulness ever stand or you see it cracking and in the end see it crumble.
Friday, April 27, 2007
Saturday, April 14, 2007
Venting of a rambler...
A week has passed, and I have landed myself in a new job. Was suppose to be a joyful thing, but sadly, I have to agree with some people that there is no such things as “greener pastures” on the other side of the fence. Instead of the nice air that I suppose I was going to get, I got myself in a pile of crap.
I am not sure if its just me, or its just the environment, but listening to some people telling me that I’ve been too complacent with the old company, that I need some adjustment to do. It is true that this is the thing that we all will face when we move over to some new place/job.
The person that interviews you paints such a perfect picture, but the picture was not painted to beautify the picture, but just to paint over some of the areas that needs “touch up”. Though sometimes it is true not to show the true colors of the organization, but at least the person who interviews shouldn’t have paint a touch up on themselves too.
I am not sure whether to hate the leader or to hate the organization, but at this point of time, I hate both. The organization might be crappy in the way they manage, but if the leader of the department is as crappy as the organization itself, what is there to learn from the leader?
More of less, the environment does not even make the place as an enjoyable place to work with, but rather, people has been leaving the organization, to quote from one person who told me “People has been leaving after working here for just only 2-3 months”. Hearing from a person who has been on the top position really makes me wonder that its true that the organization, to the eyes of the public might be very good, but I guess the judging the cover is not a wise thing to do.
“Look at the organization’s background”, someone says, but I looked, and it is not bad, but I should look further, like interviewing the people within the organization and see if it is worth to work in an organization that it is considered “old school”. Rigid and red tapes are not the way to a new way of how organization should work on, but rather, for a bunch of “YES” people and subordinates are to follow “BLINDLY”
In reality, there is no way that we would know the unknown. Who would even want to allow some outsiders to uncover the things in the organization? So we have to say that we are just pending on our luck to see if we are lucky to be in the best or the worst place ever.
I am not sure if its just me, or its just the environment, but listening to some people telling me that I’ve been too complacent with the old company, that I need some adjustment to do. It is true that this is the thing that we all will face when we move over to some new place/job.
The person that interviews you paints such a perfect picture, but the picture was not painted to beautify the picture, but just to paint over some of the areas that needs “touch up”. Though sometimes it is true not to show the true colors of the organization, but at least the person who interviews shouldn’t have paint a touch up on themselves too.
I am not sure whether to hate the leader or to hate the organization, but at this point of time, I hate both. The organization might be crappy in the way they manage, but if the leader of the department is as crappy as the organization itself, what is there to learn from the leader?
More of less, the environment does not even make the place as an enjoyable place to work with, but rather, people has been leaving the organization, to quote from one person who told me “People has been leaving after working here for just only 2-3 months”. Hearing from a person who has been on the top position really makes me wonder that its true that the organization, to the eyes of the public might be very good, but I guess the judging the cover is not a wise thing to do.
“Look at the organization’s background”, someone says, but I looked, and it is not bad, but I should look further, like interviewing the people within the organization and see if it is worth to work in an organization that it is considered “old school”. Rigid and red tapes are not the way to a new way of how organization should work on, but rather, for a bunch of “YES” people and subordinates are to follow “BLINDLY”
In reality, there is no way that we would know the unknown. Who would even want to allow some outsiders to uncover the things in the organization? So we have to say that we are just pending on our luck to see if we are lucky to be in the best or the worst place ever.
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