Is it really true when people practice open relationship, the relationship will last compared to a monogamous relationship? What is the definition of open to some people? Some considered open to the extent of calling a 3rd person to join for occasional fun, while some define it as the couple go their own way to find their fun but just don’t let the other party find out.
How true or sure that you can keep you partner’s heart at bay? Will you have the fear that they will leave you if they find someone that maybe performs better than you? We can see this as lust, not love. It is because that when we find fun, and the fun turns out to be the best thing you’ve ever had and hope that you can have more, lust takes over and not love. So where does love come in?
Would this dampen a relationship that someone has? Could you loose your partner over lust? The answer to this, it is a 50/50 chance. As we go on further to define a relationship, we tend to say that love and lust works together. Without lust, but only love, when will it last? So when open relationship comes in play, are we prepared to face the day that we might loose a partner?
I am not saying people out there who practices open relationship will not last long, but there is a caution to this matter.
What if one suggest to have an open relationship, where the other tries to accommodate feels suffocated or stressed for the matter that “negative thoughts” might be playing in the mind. The aspect of one practices while the other does not, how far can one give in to the other partner’s wishes to go ahead?
If both agree to the fact are open, I guess this couple could last longer. But is there a 100% truth to this matter that open relationships can make the couple go on further.
More often than not, the only people who might get hurt are the ones being asked to have fun, knowing or not knowing that sparks might trigger and fall for a person who is already partnered.
The ultimate question that brings to the attention of couples that are practicing open relationship, it is necessary for you to have this and when is it enough?
Take the analogy of a person who has a salary of 1000. He says, “If I can get another 500, it should be enough”, but when the target is reached, another thought comes into the mind, “Maybe if I get 2000, it would be enough”. The fact is, it’s never enough. As human, the needs of a person changes so fast. It might satisfy but a short period of time, when the person gets bored with it, they would look for something new.
Can we control our needs? Will the person in front of you be good enough? Will this faithfulness ever stand or you see it cracking and in the end see it crumble.
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